Resilience, vulnerability, optimism, and gratitude are universal behaviours and practices that predict success. None of these are relevant if they compromise an individual’s grasp on reality. Keeping things “real” means recognizing things that you can change and things that you can’t. “Extraordinary” requires an exceptionally clear vision of what is within our circle of control, circle of influence and circle of concern – then recognizing where the majority of energy and brain power is being spent. A reality-based approach is one in which you accept some circumstances as “truth”, rise above some circumstances, and exercise influence to change some circumstances. Learners will explore adversity and map challenges or issues within their three “circles” in an effort to reallocate negative energy and paint a clear picture of the reality in which they MUST find joy and success.